Gay dating in San Francisco goes offline
I've tried meeting single men through the Internet personals, approached guys at the grocery store, bars, Tower Recordsthe Gay Pride parade. I've been matched up by co-workers and friends. I've even prayed for Mr. When I received the e-mail announcing there would be a speed-dating event in San Francisco, I thought that might be the only route I gratis dating seite wien tried, save hanging upside down from a tree limb with a sign around my neck reading, "Single and fabulous.
My buddy had hurt his neck in a snowboarding fall on Valentine's Day weekend, so he had to cancel. I would be flying solo. I had butterflies as I approached the Metro bar and restaurant in the Castro, where the event would be held, not knowing what to expect. Were my Mavi jeans and baby blue T-shirt too tight? Who would be there?
Could my match be among them? I got a tingle of anticipation and decided to go in expecting only to have fun, no matter what happened. The line waiting to register was longer than I expected. About 75 guys had turned out. White guys, black guys, Filipino and Latino guys, tall, short and in between, muscular and wide-in-the-waistband. Gelled hair, shaved heads. I eyed a few cutie pops, so I knew there was potential.
I chitchatted in line with a guy who said he was a retired therapist. He seemed like a good soul with a warm smile and witty repartee. He made me laugh. Once registered, I learned I would be in Group No. I was eager to get started. I went up to the bar ordered a Calistoga water with lime. I used the time to mingle with other single fellows and find out what made them try speed dating. Because I hadn't had much luck with dating through other routes, I was curious about what their courting experiences had been like in San Francisco.
If I had a dollar at the end of the night for every guy who said, "Sex is easy to get in San Francisco. Even before my group was called, I spotted a cutie whom I wanted to meet. Physically, he was my type -- fit, nice hands, masculine, with a nice smile. He was checking me out, too, so I went up and introduced myself. He was an accountant for a law firm in San Francisco. He had an edge to him. His right eyebrow was pierced -- a turn-on. We talked for a few minutes. I found out he likes his job, but what's more important to him is what he does after work, including helping charities, going for hikes, spending time with friends.
Other men expressed the same sentiment, that they'd rather be doing something they enjoy, skiing, going for a day hike or just hanging out with friends and letting love happen unexpectedly. That's the frame of mind I'm in these days. Once my group was called, Brian, gay speed dating in san francisco host, told us that we would have three minutes per guy. We were given a number and a scorecard, on which we were to circle "yes" or "no" under the number of the guy on the opposite side of the table from us.
If two guys both circle yes, that meant you've got a match. There would be an opportunity afterward to mingle and meet guys not in our group. Have fun, relax and enjoy yourself. I found a lot of guys to be nervous. There was a lot of small talk, but a few guys impressed me with the depth of their questions -- the ones who asked me what qualities I'm looking for in a partner or what I do for a living or what my hobbies are. I also appreciated the ones who made eye contact. Unlike a bar setting on a Saturday night, where there's often a heavy sexual vibe, these men were talking about their hopes gay speed dating in san francisco finding Mr.
Right, their interests and careers. There was a nice nurse with a wonderful smile, but he was only Too young for me. I like older men. They're often more comfortable in their gay speed dating in san francisco. One older guy I talked to who had been out of the dating scene for a while appealed to me. Other than the accountant, he was the only other guy whose name I circled at the end of the night.
He kind of shrank on his barstool as he talked but seemed very sincere, like someone I'd like to get to know better. There were other guys with nasally voices, a few with thinning hair One had a comb-over. He couldn't have been gay! One guy told me I had a beautiful body, which gave me a lift. I wasn't attracted to him but could relate to his woes about the paucity of available men in the city.
So many guys are into partying or games, or are still playing the field, even in their 30s and 40s. One guy noted how San Francisco attracts men with weird fetishes. No one was completely annoying. There were a lot of kindred spirits in the crowd, men searching for someone loving and kind, honest and attractive. One especially earnest man -- we were moving so fast I can't remember his name -- had fought in the first Gulf War and shared his story of how difficult it is to meet a eligible bachelor in San Gay speed dating in san francisco.
He was one of the most genuine men I sat down with, but there wasn't a physical attraction for me, and I've learned that having the sizzle is as important as connecting emotionally and intellectually. At the end of the final round, I was ready to leave. The idea of lingering in a bar ever, much less on a work night, had zero appeal to me. My voice was sore from yelling over the din of men's Plus I hadn't had dinner.
I went up to the accountant with the eyebrow piercing and said good night and headed off to my favorite salad place on Church Street, then went home. Wednesday afternoon, I had an e-mail from HurryDate, with the accountant's e-mail address. He'd picked me, too. He e-mailed me Friday morning, saying he enjoyed talking with me and he'd like to have coffee or dinner sometime soon. I'll definitely be calling him.
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