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Learn about SDN's nonprofit mission. Previous Thread Next Thread. Hi- Third-year orthopod here. My girlfriend, a 4th-year med student, is likely going to a program about 6 hours away for residency. We both want the relationship to continue when she moves away in June. Are we doomed to failure? BuffStampedeJan 7, SDN Members don't see this ad. I was in long-distance relationship for three years, and I wouldn't inflict that upon anyone.
Luckily we'd only been dating for three months before he moved back to the States, but the first year trans-atlantic was pretty bad. We saw each other three times, I believe. I think the schedule of residency would be almost like having an ocean between you, instead of 6 hours. You've been dating her for a while, I presume? So you've already started to build a relationship, and now you're considering this distance.
I think at best being apart puts you in a 'holding pattern. IMHO it would be much more difficult to already have a close, intimate, this-person-is-intricately-bound-up-in-my-daily-life kind of bond and then impose the distance. Could you transfer to her program i. BlondeDocteurJan 7, It'll be very very tough. I barely see my husband, and we live in the same house. If your relationship is strong enough, it will probably be do-able Bruingirl6Jan 7, If your concern is infidelity: It's not like college, where you combine long distance with ample time off, a buffet of peers to choose from, and alcohol.
I mean, it can absolutely happen senior resident and intern enjoy a tryst in the call room? Odds are, as residents, you're both too busy to bother cheating. You're going to have to be the judge of this. Was she the kind of girl dating a medical resident long distance the trials and tribulations of medical school left in an resjdent wreck Were you constantly playing her cheerleader and shoulder to dating a medical resident long distance on during medical school?
If so, yes, I'd be very worried this relationship is going to crash and burn. PeepshowJohnnyMedjcal 7, I'd surmise that all of the above information is correct and I'd add, it depends also on what specialty your GF is doing, the hours and your schedule. A mostly outpatient residency internet dating artist trolley lots of weekends off coupled with living in an inexpensive city may mean you could see her twice a dating a medical resident long distance or more presuming there are some low cost air fares between your two cities, as driving 6 hrs each way would be a major drain after awhile.
Winged ScapulaJan 7, Yeah, 6 hours is enough that it's going to be tough to see each other during even the moderately-busy months. It's tough enough dating a medical resident long distance two residents at the same program to date successfully. Blade28Jan 8, No matter what happens later, as there are always surprises in life, you always have to believe that your LDR will work.
We've met when I was doing research before medical school and I actually thought about breaking up with my Resirent during medical school, especially when I started 3rd year rotations. Not that my SO or our relationship had any issues but it was because I felt bad that I didn't have time for my SO and was holding back my SO from having fun or other outing opportunities.
There was never fidelity issues. So if you think it will work, then it will work. You'd never know if you don't try. Doctor GrimJan 8, DanboJan 8, It all depends on the individuals involved more than their genders. That goes for fidelity, ability to deal with the lack of emotional support, or whether it feels pointless to be in a relationship when there's little to no actual contact. Have either of you been in an LDR before? I'd think deeply about how successful or unsuccessful that was, and what the specific problems were, to get an idea of llng likely you resisent to fail this time.
LadyGreyJan 8, I was in a LDR for three years during residency. It was very, very difficult and we ultimately couldn't make it work. I know several couples who have been in LDRs. If it's for resieent short time one yearit is feasible, but difficult. I can think of one couple who made it in a multi-year LDR -- there were several others who gave it a good attempt, but it just doesn't work for most people. Well, I might contribute my two cents here. People seem to be bumming big time on the LDR thing, but I read through the similar posts at the bottom of the page here and I found some good comments by other people on other forums.
Sounds like alot of people in medicine have made it work ok. There are decent posts by many people who had long distance relationships through ugrad, med school or residency and ended up married. I definitely believe it can be done, but it depends on dating a medical resident long distance two people involved.